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Find out if your husband is on the notorious Ashley Madison site.
To put it mildly, Ashley Madison is one of the most…bizarre dating sites.
Its whole premise is that life is short, and married people should consider meeting up and having secret affairs with other people—definitely NSFW.
To know if your husband is on this rather eccentric dating platform, you need to either join the app for yourself to see, or find workabouts.
But I won’t let you do the heavy lifting. Let me show you how exactly you’re going to catch your husband on Ashley Madison.
What’s Ashley Madison all about?
“Life is short. Have an affair.” is what they say.
Yes, this cheating app enables and even encourages extramarital affairs; it’s mainly used by people who want to be unfaithful, but not limited to it.
– Ashley Madison is completely free to use for women, whereas men have to pay!
This app offers its female users a lot of perks and other unique features all for free—they can message and interact with people all they want.
Men do not get the same advantages: they have to use Ashley Madison’s currency, called credits, to have a more enhanced experience.
– And to get even crazier, it masks itself from users’ devices.
One of the things that stands out the most to me is just how well it hides its users—in terms of the billing system, notification, or even the app itself.
To take it a step further, Ashley Madison allows users to change the app icon into something more-lowkey.
Now that we’re familiar with this platform, let’s look at ways how you can see if your husband uses Ashley Madison:
1. A more tedious process, but creating a fake account will let you start browsing.
Let me be clear. You cannot browse Ashley Madison without signing up.
So, pick a unique username that does not correlate with your identity and fill in the other blanks.
Make the most out of your husband’s preferences: for example, if he has a specific type, build your profile based on it!
And since the app itself allows you to blur or somehow hide your profile image, consider using those features as having photos could help your search.
- Just a quick tip! Create your Ashley Madison account under a fake email address so that it isn’t linked to you.
2. Look for your husband on Ashley Madison more effectively by filtering your searches.
When searching for a potential match, use Filters on the top right of the screen—it saves time!
With this feature, you can search for people based on their age, location, and distance.
Pick your husband’s age range, and if you believe that he wants to physically cheat nearby, shorten your preferred distance.
You can also provide more details about ‘your dream match’ by clicking on More—now you can give further details, such as:
- Preferred body type;
- Height;
- Spoken language;
- Ethnic background, etc.
3. Or just ask your friend to help you.
Because Ashley Madison is really against fake pictures and fake identities, why not ask a friend for help?
But, it has to be a friend your partner has never seen.
You can do this in two ways:
a) If your friend already has an Ashley Madison account, you can ask them if they could help you look for your spouse, or;
b) Get their permission to use their pictures and other details.
4. Give people-lookup services a try—they’ll tell you if your spouse uses Ashley Madison.
If you want to see if your husband is online cheating, specifically by using dating sites, then this method is for you!
There are third-party apps used to find people’s profiles—yes, even dating ones—based on their details.
For example, you can search by using their name, email, phone number, and more; people’s accounts relevant to your search will show up.
You might’ve heard of popular third-party sites such as:
All you need to do is provide the necessary information and profiles linked to your husband’s identity will show up!
However, these services aren’t free: a fee or subscription is typically required.
- You can also reverse-image search his pictures on SwindlerBuster for no more than $5 to see if he has an Ashely Madison account.
5. See if there have been any suspicious transactions on his bank statement.
AM uses a billing descriptor that helps hide what the payment was made for, but luckily for us, this doesn’t work for all banks.
Check your husband’s bank statement if possible—even though I doubt he’s paid using it, give your joint account a look too.
If it says that the payment has been made for Ashley Madison, then there you have it! He is using it, and I’m sure we can assume why.
Also, see if you can find something along the lines of “AMDA 1 622 734 3245” or “AMDB” followed by a bunch of numbers.
6. Check his apps, all of them; users can change their Ashley Madison app icon.
It shouldn’t come as a surprise that snooping around a partner’s devices is a successful method of exposing cheaters.
Ashley Madison gives users different icons they can choose from to hide the fact they use it.
When going through your husband’s phone, make sure to thoroughly check all of his apps by going to Settings > Apps.
Here are some options AM gives users for the app icon—if you see any of these, know that your husband does in fact use it:
7. Keep an eye out for unusual notifications and click on them if you see any.
AM notifications are very vague, and they become even more complicated when you find out that users can customize them.
Yes, users can customize how the notifications look on their phones!
For example, if your husband is using this stealth feature, he can make his notifications say, “Daily reminder: your wife is the most amazing woman in the world!” when in reality he’s receiving a nude.
If you get the opportunity and your husband isn’t present, go through his phone and click on the notification.
8. Check his browsing history on both his phone and PC.
Again, I doubt he’d make the mistake of not covering his tracks, but it’s worth a shot.
On his mobile device and PC, go to History on the browser and scroll down until you find searches related to Ashley Madison.
On Google, you can click on Journeys to see what exactly he’s searched for—was it AM’s prices, privacy policy, or anything else related?
9. Look up his email on a hacked database to see if it’s linked to Ashley Madison.
If your husband signed up for Ashley Madison, he used his email address.
Ashley Madison had a data leak, so you can check for his email here: Ashley Madison Database.
Read the instructions on the website to use it correctly.
You can also check his email app for any emails from Ashley Madison, including notifications, promotions, or deleted emails.
Ashley Madison usually sends notifications to users’ email addresses, so this method can be helpful.
Remember, the app advises users to sign up with a different email than their usual one.
10. If your partner has an iPhone, check his list of hidden purchases.
Apple makes it possible for users to both hide their purchases and check them—let’s utilize this feature!
Go to your husband’s iPhone’s App Store, click on his icon, and then tap on his name.
Go to Purchase History; if you don’t see anything there, click on Change Filters, Type, and pick the In-app Purchases option.
11. There’s also a way to check if he deletes and re-installs the app!
If he’s a smart cheater, he would delete the app when he’s finished and re-install it whenever he needs it again.
1. For iPhone, go to his App Store and click on his icon > Purchased > Not on This iPhone.
2. For Android, go to the Play Store > his icon > Manage Apps & Devices > Manage > Installed > Uninstalled.
12. See if the Ashley Madison site has been visited using your Wi-Fi connection.
You can ask your Internet Service Provider for this information, or you can ask a tech-savvy friend to help you!
See the list of the sites; if you haven’t visited the Ashley Madison Website, then we know who has.
– Cues your husband IS on Ashley Madison.
If your husband is using dating sites, he will behave in a very suspicious way—whether you notice or not.
You want examples? Sure!
- He’s changed all of his passwords;
- He doesn’t let you near his phone, no matter what;
- He interacts with strangers online;
- He gets notifications from unusual apps (Ashley Madison in disguise);
- Your sexual and emotional connections have changed;
- He has a second phone or SIM card;
- His browsing history and chat and call logs are always empty;
- He receives cryptic messages from cryptic people (the way cheaters text each other to remain low-key);
Try to look for the signs first and try to bust his affair later.
You got this!