Seeing a dating site message on your husband’s phone can be alarming—but does it mean he’s using them?

Spam and unwanted messages are common, especially online. Let’s explore eight possible reasons behind them.

1. It’s Just Spam from Random Dating Sites

Spam emails are annoying, especially from sites you’ve never used.

Your husband might be getting these messages simply because spammers target publicly available contact information. He doesn’t need to sign up to receive them—it happens to many people!

2. He Signed Up on a Dating Site

The most obvious reason—he’s actually using the dating site.

If he signed up with his email, he’ll receive notifications, promotions, and other messages. Dating platforms send these to keep users engaged, and unfortunately, many people in relationships still visit them.

There’s a difference between random spam and legitimate emails. If the messages mention new matches or direct interactions, he may have an active account.

3. It’s from an Old, Forgotten Account

He might be getting emails from a dating account he signed up for long ago and never deleted.

Some platforms keep inactive accounts, and if he didn’t unsubscribe or properly deactivate it, the emails keep coming. While it’s fair to question why the account still exists, it could simply be an oversight.

4. His Contact Information Was Sold

Many companies sell user data, including email addresses, to third parties—sometimes even dating sites.

If your partner signed up for a service that shares user info, his email could end up on spam lists. It’s shady but common, and most of us miss it buried in the fine print of privacy policies.

5. A Virus Is Spamming Him

A virus could be behind the sudden, suspicious spam your partner is receiving.

If he accidentally clicked on something harmful, malware might have infected his device, causing it to send spammy notifications—often from dating sites—promising false rewards.

6. Someone Else Is Using His Email

It’s rare, but sometimes others use your partner’s email to sign up for dating sites.

A friend or relative might be using his email, especially if they were banned from dating sites and needed help re-registering. This could be why he’s getting unsolicited emails.

7. It’s Just a Promotion

If the emails are in the Promotions folder, they’re likely just ads.

Email services like Gmail often send marketing messages from businesses we’ve never interacted with, including dating sites.

It’s common to receive unsolicited offers or deals, even if there’s no personal interest.

8. Fake Notifications from Shady Sites

Your husband might be getting fake notifications from shady websites.

Sites like adult or pirated movie platforms often use deceptive ads to make money.

These fake notifications—like one claiming someone wants to trade pictures—are designed to look real, but they’re just a ploy to get attention.

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Here are some useful tips to spot signs of a partner’s behavior that hint at them being active on dating platforms.

Watch for these red flags:

• Secretive with their phone or social media
• Acts distant or defensive
• Hides or deletes emails and browsing history
• Gets personalized, legitimate-looking dating site emails

Trust your instincts and pay attention to their behavior.

How can your husband stop getting emails from dating sites?

If your husband is tired of spam emails from dating sites, here’s what he can do:

• Unsubscribe from newsletters: If he signed up for a site, unsubscribe from their newsletters to stop unwanted emails.
• Report suspicious emails: Report or block any unfamiliar emails to help protect him and others from shady companies.
• Block the sender: Blocking the sender ensures no more emails from specific sources, though spammers might have multiple accounts.
• Be cautious online: Avoid shady websites and never share personal or sensitive information on suspicious sites.
• Create a new email: If spam persists, consider deleting the old email address and creating a new one for better protection.

Safety comes first—taking these steps will help reduce unwanted spam.

All Things Considered…

Receiving unsolicited emails is nothing new. However, when those emails are inappropriate, it can spark doubts about a partner’s loyalty. That’s when spam becomes problematic and emotions can get out of hand.

How this works before jumping to conclusions—after all, knowledge is power!

Good luck!