Snapchat is one of those platforms in which you can gain very little to no information about another user!
Forget not being able to see their friend list or interactions, do you know what the best part is? People’s texts get automatically deleted upon viewing.
I’m really not trying to sell Snapchat to cheaters—they already use it.
If you want to know if your boyfriend is snapping other girls, know that if he were to take his pick among cheating apps, he would pick Snapchat.
See who your boyfriend is talking to on Snapchat with these 8 savvy methods:
1. Ask for permission to check his app.
A lot of couples display their love and trust to one another by exchanging mobile phones—it’s a trust thing because of how often people cheat on their phones.
So you asking him to do this isn’t something new!
Ask your boyfriend if he’s okay with letting you check his Snapchat account; you can make your suspicions known, or you can come up with a reason:
- “Have you been having the same [problem] I have? Can I check your Snapchat real quick?”
- “We should watch Snap stories together! I want to see what you’re interested in.”
I can’t assure you that he’ll accept, so take note of his reactions:
If he panics or profusely refuses to show you his Snapchat, then take that as a sign too.
2. See who he regularly snaps by stealing a quick glance at his phone.
Whenever he opens his app, be sneaky and steal a glance!
People who’re cheating on Snapchat won’t typically make the mistake of opening the app in front of you—but if he does, a quick look won’t hurt.
Just make sure to act and look natural or he’ll know you’re suspecting him.
Once again, you can make up an excuse to get him to open Snapchat: you can tell him you want to take a picture together!
Or you can say you want to show him a silly filter you found.
Once you succeed and get him to enter the application (and it pans over to his chats), take a swift gaze and a mental note of his Snap buddies.
3. Check your ‘Quick Add’ to see if that girl you’re worried about is there!
Okay, this is a bit tricky so bear with me!
Snapchat recommends users whom you share mutual friends with—the minimum number of mutual friends that is shown is 2.
This means that if you and another Snapchat user have 2 or more friends in common, under their profile you’ll see, ‘2+ mutual friends’.
You might be seeing other users on your ‘Quick Add’ section, but Snapchat isn’t telling you if you have only one friend in common—this doesn’t mean you don’t, though.
It simply means that, for privacy reasons, Snapchat isn’t tattling (or else you might know who that mutual friend is).
Now, onto how we can use this information…
By process of elimination, you can pretty much guess what friend you and this girl have in common.
Let’s say she’s a long-time friend of your boyfriend’s from back home and she has no other ties to you or him: they don’t work together, go to the same school, or have the same friend group.
Maybe your partner lied to you and said he doesn’t talk to her, but if she’s being recommended to you on the app, it means they have each other added.
Be careful, though! It’s possible that another one of your Snap friends talks to this person!
You also might have her number saved or are part of the same Snap group.
4. Make a new account, add only him, and see which people show up in ‘Quick Add’.
This is another ‘Quick Add’ trick!
For this, you’re going to need to make a new Snapchat account and add ONLY your boyfriend.
After doing that, you’re going to see new suggestions in ‘Quick Add’—since you only have your boyfriend added, they’re most likely his friends.
But, this method has its flaws:
- It’s not guaranteed that your partner will accept your request since he thinks you’re just a stranger;
- Snapchat tells its users how they were added (if you add him by username, he’ll think something is up);
- This method is generally not too reliable. So proceed with caution!
5. Talk to him from your new Snap account.
You won’t learn who he talks to, but if he talks to other women on Snapchat!
Put a fake name, set up a Bitmoji different from your actual one, add him, and flirt with your boyfriend.
If he returns the flirting, then it’s likely he talks to other women too—to him, your new account belongs to a stranger.
But even if he doesn’t flirt back with you, it doesn’t mean he’s not talking to others.
He might be onto you, hence, he’s being cautious.
6. Check his notifications and see if he is indeed snapping other girls.
But you can only do this if he has his Snapchat notifications enabled.
If he receives any notification, glance over his shoulder to see the person it came from.
If it’s from an unknown woman’s name (or a person with a flirty nickname), he’s presumably talking to other people.
The ideal scenario would be his phone receiving a notification while your boyfriend’s away—quickly check his screen!
Not exactly the brainiest solution, but something can be found.
7. It’s not recommended, but technically, you can see what he’s doing on Snapchat by checking his phone.
If you want to know if he’s cheating on Snapchat or not, checking his phone will help you.
For this, you’ll need to have access to it (if he has a phone passcode, you will need to know it).
Once you’re in, go to the Snapchat app and check:
- His friend list;
- His messages;
- The ‘Snapchat Album’ on his phone gallery (just in case he’s saved any sexual images from Snapchat);
- His ‘My Eyes Only’ album on Snapchat;
- His best friends on Snapchat—the people he talks to the most.
This is a risky method, though! Not only are the chances of your boyfriend catching you red-handed high, but he might have deleted all the evidence beforehand.
8. And what’s even less recommended is installing spying apps on his phone!
We hate to admit it, but it works: spying apps are an unacceptable, but very effective method.
Similarly to just checking the app without your partner’s permission, this method requires you to know his password.
You need to create an account on the spying app of your choice, pick a plan, and set it up on his phone.
Quite problematic—there are surely more (healthier) methods that get the job done!
Having a talk with your boyfriend is one!
How to know if he’s talking to another girl on Snapchat? These 14 signs will give you the answer.
One way of finding out if your significant other is cheating on Snapchat is by observing his behavior.
These are the typical signs that suggest he’s been snapping other women:
– Your boyfriend has more than 1 Snap account!
Because why does he need more than 1 account? Is he trying to prevent you from finding out he’s been cheating?
Maybe, maybe not—the point is secondary accounts are one of the methods cheaters use to hide their trails.
– He’s very discreet with his phone.
If your boyfriend does not agree to give you his phone no matter what, then he could be online cheating.
This also includes him hiding his phone, tilting it away from you, and never responding to texts/calls in front of you.
You noticed that every time you ask to use his phone, he throws a temper tantrum! View this as a sign of his cheating.
– You send him numerous Snaps, but he either responds way later, or not at all.
Another giveaway is when your boyfriend takes an eternity to Snap you back!
If he’s talking to other women, then he would be too distracted to reply to your texts or pictures.
And when he does, his replies are short, dry, and completely unrelated to what you were talking about—both are worrisome!
– His Snap score goes up even though he doesn’t respond to you!
Another thing you shouldn’t overlook is your partner’s Snap score continuously going up.
But not ”just” going up a number or two, I’m talking about a crazy increase in his Snap score!
And even though he never snaps you back, his score never stops growing—what’s interesting is that people view this as a red flag.
Snapchat users receive points for every picture and video sent/received, however, texting another person does not increase your score.
Keep that in mind.
– He doesn’t mind giving people his Snapchat if they ask.
In my rather vast experience in dating, I have noticed one thing:
A person with no boundaries isn’t typically opposed to the idea of performing actions that could be perceived as unfaithful.
Coincidentally, even if they are, their mind can be changed later on.
If your boyfriend always gives his Snapchat username to people you don’t know, there’s a high possibility he talks to those people.
It wouldn’t make sense if he didn’t!
– He’s put his Snap handle in his bio.
So now people don’t have to go through the trouble of actually asking him for it—the whole world can add him!
In all seriousness, Snapchat is often used for cheating due to its secretive nature; if your boyfriend is cool with strangers adding him on the platform, can he be trusted?
Yeah, we can pass it off as him being a really, really social person, but if this oversteps your boundaries, he has no excuse to do it.
– He has a cutesy nickname for one (but not limited to) other woman.
Maybe you have sneaked a peek inside his Snapchat account and one thing stood out to you:
He has put a flirty nickname for one person friend from his friend list.
Probably an inside joke of theirs, or a nickname that highlights one of her attributes—or maybe it was one (or a series of) romantic emojis.
We typically go out of our way to nickname a person we care about; if that girl isn’t someone he’s introduced you to, then they could be talking as more than friends.
– His stories are often hidden from you.
People can pick who they want their stories to be hidden from—similar features frequently get overused by cheaters.
You might be wondering how hiding his Snap story from you would help conceal his cheating, and that’s a fair point!
Maybe he wants to post a photo of himself and his side piece—or maybe his side piece has been insisting that he posts her.
Whatever’s going through his mind, he knows his stories need to be hidden from you.
– Another woman (that you don’t know) is his BFF.
If she’s his BFF, that means they talk to each other plenty.
It’s clear as day—they were able to become BFFs only by Snapping each other every day.
Just look for the emoji!
– When you ask whom he’s Snapping, he starts acting weird.
He desperately tries to change the subject by bringing up something else.
If not, he’s going to get hostile and flip out for being asked a normal question!
Or, he might start insulting that person: some cheaters do this.
They’re afraid of being caught, so they start degrading their affair partner in order to throw their actual partner off their tracks.
– The majority of the people he has streaks with are women.
But before jumping to conclusions here, make sure they’re not his friends/relatives.
Otherwise, if he maintains his streaks with female strangers, then that’s a tad worrying.
They’re already, in some way, talking by sending Snaps back and forth.
– He exits the app when you get near him.
If he quickly exits Snapchat as soon as you look at his phone, then he most likely did it because he was talking to someone.
He doesn’t want you to see!
Also, the same goes if he turns off his phone altogether.
– He does not post you on his Snapchat story!
Instead of going through the trouble of hiding his story from every individual woman he talks to, he finds it easier to just not post you.
If he has a lot of people on Snapchat whom he has a thing with, he’s going to avoid letting them know about you.
– He has set his chats to be deleted right after being viewed.
Snapchat offers users 2 options:
- To make it so their chats are deleted 24 hours after viewings (the convenient option), and;
- Right after viewing (the annoying, unsuitable option).
If your boyfriend has picked the second option, he might be trying to stop you from reading his text messages.
The only way to know for sure is by getting into the application and investigating.
It isn’t the healthiest way—that we already know—but it will prove how loyal your partner truly is!
– What does it mean when your partner hides their Snapchat from you?
Generally, it’s not a good thing—not Snapchat, not any other social media platform.
A relationship should always contain trust, openness, and communication—when this notion is challenged, it’s usually not a good thing.
If your partner literally exerts themselves trying to hide their Snapchat app (or even profile) from you, take it as a signal.
Snapping has become the new, hip way to cheat.
And because of that very bitter fact, we need to be more vigilant than ever.
Even if your partner is actually cheating on Snapchat, it’s going to be very difficult to catch him.
Nonetheless, being attentive to his behavior—and with the help of the methods above—nothing will get past you.
Good luck and stay sharp!