20 secretive signs he’s texting another woman! – What to do about it?

There’s nothing quite as heartbreaking in a relationship as doubting a partner’s loyalty.

We usually get a gut feeling, and the sad thing is, that feeling is often right.

However, if you suspect your man might be talking to another woman, just look at how much attention he’s giving her.

1. He’s always on his phone lately.

He’s always on his phone lately

If your man has started talking to another woman, his screen time has most likely suddenly increased.

He just got home from work? The first thing he does is check his phone.

There may be someone he desperately wants to talk to, but to do that, he needs to spend the majority of his time on his phone.

2. You found him on dating sites.

Whether you used Swindlerbuster or other options, finding him on dating apps is not a good sign.

If he’s on dating apps or sites, then he’s very likely to be texting other women…multiple of them due to the number of opportunities he’s being presented.

3. He’s gradually becoming more aloof.

Lately, you’ve noticed that he’s become distant, cold, and disinterested: he’s not as affectionate as he used to be, and he’s impossible to get a hold of.

He’s always canceling your plans and has no justifiable excuse for it.

This type of behavior change is usually linked with something more serious, say, a loss of feelings, guilt, and/or other factors.

4. He always seems to be preoccupied.

For the life of you, you just can’t seem to spend some proper time with him because he’s always telling you he’s busy.

A decreased amount of time spent together is usually a negative sign, especially if it’s linked to his phone.

5. His accounts and devices suddenly have passwords.

Sharing your passwords is the modern-age way of letting a significant other know you’re serious and trustworthy.

If your man has suddenly locked everything with a password, chances are he’s done it because he’s talking to someone else and doesn’t want you to know.

6. He doesn’t post or mention you anywhere.

He doesn’t post or mention you anywhere

Another very huge, red flag in relationships is a person not posting or even mentioning their partner on their socials.

That would greatly ruin your man’s chances of talking to someone else as it would chase the women he’s interested in away.

If, for example, he’s started texting another girl, he won’t hint at the fact that he’s taken in any way.

7. His friends have started acting awkward around you.

And that’s because they know what he’s up to.

I wouldn’t be surprised if your partner told his buddies that he was talking to another woman and double-timing you.

Knowing that, whenever you, him, and his friends hang out, they act super awkward and uncomfortable around you.

8. He clears his texts, conversations, and/or browser history.

If you’ve noticed that your guy always clears his messages, conversations, history, and everything else to erase his tracks, that’s not a good sign.

Based on simple logic, he’s not deleting conversations with his relatives or friends, so it has to be another woman.

So, he might be deleting clues because he doesn’t want you to find out he’s cheating on you over text.

9. He reacts negatively whenever asked about it.

If you already have confronted him, he probably reacted very, very negatively:

  • Getting angry;
  • Acting defensively;
  • Guilt-tripping you;
  • Panicking;
  • Going silent.

His guilt is showing through his behavior. It’s human nature, really: we don’t want to stay on the topic of something that makes us uncomfortable. 

10. He never leaves his phone unattended anymore.

No matter where he is and what he’s doing, one thing is for sure: he always has his phone with him.

He’s being extra careful to not leave you any openings to check it or see any notifications or calls.

He doesn’t leave it in places other than his pockets, under his pillow when he’s sleeping, or anywhere near him, really.

11. You catch him having way too much fun on his phone.

You catch him having way too much fun with his phone

Do you know the annoying and gut-wrenching feeling of catching your partner giggling while texting with someone?

If your partner is always having the time of his life when using his phone, but not with you, then that’s suspicious behavior.

Although he may be texting his friends or even watching funny videos, what are the chances he’s doing that every single time?

12. His phone is always facing away from you.

An unfaithful partner who’s cheating through his phone will never let his screen face you.

Whenever he’s texting someone, he’ll tilt his phone away from you to keep it out of your sight.

And whenever you two go out, he’ll keep his phone facing down.

13. He has his notifications turned off.

Social media platforms offer to enable notifications to see when others have interacted with us (e.g. texts, likes, calls. comments, mentions, adds, etc).

Now, normally, this isn’t a big deal, and if your partner thinks it is, then he’s possibly trying to hide someone.

Chances are he has his notifications off because he doesn’t want you to see who’s texting and calling him.

14. You notice new women on his friend list.

If he’s constantly adding women you don’t know and have never met on his socials, I don’t blame you for being suspicious.

“How does my partner know this person? And why have I never been told about them?”

The most feasible explanation, in this case, would be that he’s messaging the women in question.

15. He often calls you another woman’s name.

This is an especially aggravating one—if your partner has a habit of mixing your name up with another woman’s, I mean.

If his keyboard often auto-corrects to another woman’s name, that’s quite worrying as how this works is that keyboards learn from people’s texting habits.

Meaning that for that to constantly happen, he would have to use a specific word often (the name of the person he’s texting in this case).

16. He never answers his calls when he’s with you.

He never answers his calls when he’s with you

He never answers his calls in front of you; he either leaves the room, declines it, or lets it ring.

“Oh, it’s just a friend, haha.”

Chances are he and this woman call too, but because he’s trying to balance those two parts of his life, she doesn’t know when’s a good time and when’s not.

Especially if she doesn’t know he’s in a relationship either.

17. He refuses to give you his phone.

Because of how common cheating through text is, part of building trust in a relationship is the readiness to share devices.

So, if he refuses to give you his phone even if you need it, it could be because he doesn’t want you snooping around.

He knows if you do so, you could find out something he’s been desperately trying to hide.

18. He delays his replies.

Another indication a partner is texting someone else is that he’s gradually delaying his replies more and more, presumably because of another girl.

He takes forever to text back, and when he finally does, he’s lackluster.

This is what happens when a man who’s bad at multitasking tries to message multiple women simultaneously 

19. He’s always checking his phone for texts.

Anxiously waiting for a reply from someone is a sign that a person is harboring deeper feelings for that specific someone.

And when we think about it, it makes sense.

Whenever we’re on a talking stage with someone we like, we can’t contain the excitement and can barely wait for a text back.

20. He often brings up things you don’t remember—a mix-up.

By this, I mean he brings up stuff he thought he told you, but in fact, didn’t: he told them to the other woman and forgot about it.

Say, he follows up on a story he thought he told you, but you don’t remember it, and says something like, “Do you remember how I was telling you about…”

Granted, he could’ve told that to anyone.

  • For example, him saying something like, “That dress you showed me looked so good, baby.” when you haven’t shown him any dresses lately is suspicious.

What to do if your man is texting another woman?

Maybe all you want to do is lash out and cuss him out, or text the other woman and give her a piece of your mind.

However, that is not the way—at least not at first.

  • 1. Take a deep breath and consider the possibilities. Think about the excusable reasons why he’s texting that specific person.
  • 2. Speak your mind. Make it known what that means for the two of you and that you won’t let yourself be disrespected.
  • 3. Take how he reacts at face value. Sometimes, people’s reactions reveal more than their words. Shifting the blame, anger, panic, lying, denying, etc. usually indicates betrayal.
  • 4. Re-establish your boundaries and make them clear to him. This ensures you’re both on the same page regarding what counts as cheating.
  • 5. Think about whether you want to give him another chance. If he doesn’t want to stop texting her, is he even worth it?

Is he interested in her?

You would think your man must be really interested in this woman since he was willing to cheat on you with her, but that’s not always the case.

If he’s simply a cheater, he’s texting her just for the heck of it—if not, however, he must have taken a liking to her.

You can tell he’s interested in her if she’s the only person he talks to and if he’s super sweet and loving towards her.

Whichever it is, you have an important decision to make!

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