Dating a freshly-divorced or soon-to-be-divorced man is bound to fill you with doubt—is he still into his wife? Is their sex life still going?

Well, it’s not too uncommon for ex-partners to rekindle their relationship, so it wouldn’t hurt for you to be careful.

For instance, if the man you’re in love with keeps postponing his divorce and behaving lovingly with his wife, he might still be sleeping with her.

– Why do men have a hard time leaving their wives?

Two people who love, cherish, and plan to spend the rest of their lives together decide to get married—what happens after the marriage is unexpected.

A man may love his wife but fantasize about breaking up their marriage due to issues and the unwillingness to resolve them.

Other than love, he may still care and wish to support her.

You hear about people who’ve been together with their significant other since forever (not literally) and don’t wish to start over with someone new.

And of course, the presence of children in marriages affects the parents’ decision to stay—the risk for a couple with children to divorce is 40% lower.

Here are 12 signs that your boyfriend is still sleeping with his wife, and might even have feelings for her:

1. He hasn’t introduced you to the world.

If a man hasn’t introduced you to his family, that’s him keeping you a secret in order not to lose any chances he has of getting back together with his ex-wife.

He doesn’t view you as a long-term partner but more like a distraction until he and his wife remedy their marriage.

2.  He won’t listen to your pleas to stop talking to her.

That’s his ex-wife, so he can’t cut her out cold turkey, however, he shouldn’t be overstepping any boundaries and making you feel uncomfortable.

They either talk a lot because they’re still sleeping together, or started sleeping together due to the large amount of contact they have—both equally bad.

3. He flirts with her…often.

Not to get flirting confused with being nice, of course!

• He compliments her a bit too much, gets too close to her, and acts the same way they did when they were married/had a great marriage.

Reciprocated flirting suggests that there is still chemistry between your partner and his wife, which means they might still be sleeping together. 

4. He goes over often or they might still live together.

Unless they have kids and he’s respecting his visitation rights, I don’t see why he would spend the majority of his time at his ex-wife’s home.

As for them still living together, it would make anybody uncomfortable! Things escalate quickly between exes in closed spaces and intimacy.

Hold him accountable when he says he will be moving out soon—if they’re just empty promises, your boyfriend might be trying to avoid divorce altogether.

5. He lies whenever his ex-wife is in question.

He lies about not having met up with her recently and about not talking to her, something there’s no need to lie about if they were simply on friendly terms.

When you tell him you know he’s lying, only then does he start slowly revealing the truth, e.g. telling you he only kept it a secret so that you don’t get upset.

6. Your sex life is practically non-existent.

In his mind, your partner thinks that by having sex with other people he’s betraying his ex-wife (even though they’re already divorced).

Another possibility is that your boyfriend suddenly stopped all sexual acts because he recently started having sex with his wife again.

7. He’s too busy for you but not for her.

In other words, his ex-wife is still his priority even after everything, which is quite dangerous for your relationship.

He drops everything just to be with her, even canceling your overdue plans as soon as she calls him.

• People prioritize the people they love, and your boyfriend might still be emotionally or sexually attracted to his wife; maybe their intimacy is pushing him to put her first.

8. He’s *still* emotionally close to her.

Most affairs start from the mind: two people who understand each other and feel comfortable with opening up.

If, after all this time, your partner is still emotionally attached to his wife, then he probably still has the hots for her.

This goes to show that she’s still that person for him and it’ll be a while before he completely moves on.

9. Whenever you look at his hand, his ring is still there.

Nothing says “I still love my wife” more than him wearing his ring, something he’s probably doing because he doesn’t want to let go of his marriage.

For all we know, he might even be lying to you about not being married, something that happens to the best of us!

10. He talks about his ex-wife in awe.

I believe we can learn a lot about a person’s character based on how they talk about their exes—it would be icky if your boyfriend were to bash and insult her.

• He says things that put you in doubt, such as calling her the most attractive woman in the world, complimenting her personality, and reminiscing about the time they were together.

11. He just can’t go through with the divorce.

His divorce has been on the table for such a long time now that you think he’ll never go through with it.

He keeps postponing it and coming up with excuses as to why he can’t do it…he needs to choose! It’s either you or her.

12. He has tried giving up on her in the past but wasn’t able to.

And finally, trial and error: he’s been trying to let go of her but he can’t.

I told you about how many people love their exes and don’t wish to spend the rest of their lives with someone else, so if this is your boyfriend, he’s likely to be sleeping with his ex.

It might take him months, or even years to move on, but ask yourself: “Is it okay for me to wait for something that might not even happen?”.

If he’s still sleeping with his wife, you need to find out ASAP!

If your partner is showing the 12 signs I talked about, then he might still be hung up on his wife and even sleeping with her.

You don’t want to be in a relationship with a man who will never put you first—trust me, you’re in for heartbreak.

How you want to find this out (e.g. by talking to him or spying on his phone) is up to you, what’s important is for the truth to come to light!