It’s become a part of our lives to suspect a partner’s loyalty; don’t get me wrong, though, it’s not something to be ignored.

One of the many ways to catch a cheater is by outsmarting them; getting them to admit to their affairs by asking peculiar questions.

Here are 22 trap questions to ask your girlfriend: how to get her to admit she’s been cheating?

1. “Whose [item] is this? I’ve never seen it.”

Whenever you two are hanging out (it has to be her place or car), sneakily place an item you bought beforehand.

It can be a water bottle or a men’s t-shirt, basically anything that doesn’t belong to your girlfriend.

Casually ask her who it belongs to—it’s obviously not hers, so what’s it doing there?

2. “I’m frustrated. Daniel got cheated on and thinks of forgiving his partner. What do you think?”

I believe that most questions having to do with real-life cheating situations are the key here.

Does her face get flustered? Does she respond vaguely and even try to change the whole topic?

Or perhaps, she gets overly defensive for no reason and asks you why you would ask her such a thing.

3. “Babe, can I ask you something? You were mentioning a guy’s name in your sleep. Who’s that?”

Whenever your significant other mentions a guy’s name in her sleep, seize that opportunity to ask her about it.

Once again, watch her reaction as well as excuses and assess whether she’s telling the truth.

4. “Oh, by the way. I saw that [a certain man] was blowing up your phone last night. Is everything okay?”

Ask her about a suspicious text she got; innocently bring the message up, almost as if you’re concerned.

Her reaction is the clue here if she:

• Shows physical signs of guilt (erratic eye contact, blushing, fidgeting, worried facial expressions, etc)
• Can’t come up with a believable, timely excuse;
• Lies about who the man is;
• Contradicts ever getting the message (even though you know she did);
• Or even breaks down and admits to texting him.

5. “Be honest, have you ever lied to me about something?”

Taking a bit of a more straightforward approach, ask your girlfriend if she’s ever lied to you about something important.

According to VerywellMind, to out a liar, body language, vocal, and language cues can come in handy:

• Vagueness;
• Repeating questions before answering them;
• Shrugging;
• Leaving out important details;

When you ask her about it, pay close attention to the way she behaves.

6. “Hey, I read this article on polyamory. More and more people are opening their relationships.”

It doesn’t hurt to know your girlfriend’s opinion on monogamy, polyamory, and similar concepts that challenge stereotypes.

If she’s okay with such a concept, it means that she doesn’t find it wrong and is open to considering it.

Though, it’s not a 100% sure thing.

7. “I like your new necklace, babe. Was it a gift? It’s not your usual style!”

If you’re certain that your s.o. is being spoiled by her secret lover, ask her about the specific gift you’re worried about.

8. “We should go to [the specific place you think she and her lover visit] together! You seem to like it there.”

Say, your friend has told you that they saw your girlfriend with another man in a specific location—all alone.

Next time this happens, tell your girlfriend that you want to go there; if she asks for the reason, tell her a friend saw her there and you figured she’d like to go again.

9. “You’ve been accidentally calling me another guy’s name. Who’s he?”

Don’t just brush off her constantly calling you another man’s name; ask her who this mysterious man is.

10. “So, what do you think of my friend?”

If you’re having doubts about your partner and friend talking, plus you have solid proof, test them.

Ask her what she thinks about that specific friend of yours; she might be taken aback at first and ask why the sudden question.

11. “[specific person] called you last night and I picked up. I’m a bit confused. Can you explain?”

Whether this happened or not, doesn’t matter—the trickiness of the question lies behind that very fact.

Don’t give too much detail, instead, let your girlfriend fill in the blanks; ask her with a straight face, and don’t follow up on it.

12. “Do you ever miss being single? What do you miss the most about it?”

Try using this question only when you’re on the topic of singlehood—think about what her answers truly mean.

Do they indicate that she does, in fact, yearn for her single life to be back? And on that note, is the part she misses the most her having options? 

13. “I know about everything. You do know what I’m talking about, right?”

This one’s a classic: pretend you know what your partner has been up to just to see their reaction.

If you do it right, you won’t have to say a single word; if your girlfriend has been cheating, she’ll either react a certain way, or straight-up open up about it.

14. “Do you think it’s cheating if…”

As we know, a lot of people have different views regarding unfaithfulness; what you might think of as cheating, your girlfriend might think the opposite.

For example, if you suspect she’s using dating sites, ask about her opinion on them.

15. “Can I use your phone real quick, babe?”

A lot of people cheat using their phones, and if that’s the case, she’s going to refuse to hand her phone over.

She might even throw a fit and come up with fake excuses as to why you can’t suddenly use her phone.

16. “Don’t you think it’s time we exchanged passwords? I trust you and want you to trust me too.”

Saw what I did there? I’m taking the blame off of the partner and placing it on us—just some damage control.

17. Nitpick her stories: “How was hanging out with [her friend]? What were you up to?”

When cheaters go to…well, cheat, they usually come up with an excuse so they can leave the house.

Once you’re positive that your girlfriend is going to meet up with her lover, the next day, ask her questions like you normally would.

If she’s lying, she is bound to mess her story up and be extremely vague or defensive.

18. “I’ve been thinking about us lately, and can I ask you a question? What do you think about our future?”

If your significant other has been acting a certain way, I’m sure she saw this question coming—ask her about the relationship.

If your girlfriend isn’t serious, she will most likely not guarantee that you two will remain together, or avoid the subject altogether.

19. “Do you think cheating ruins a relationship forever? I certainly do.”

Strike up a conversation about cheating and ask your girlfriend what her opinions on it are.

Again, if she’s factually cheating, her reaction will look like how I explained above.

20. “When’s the last time you heard from [her friend’s name]?”

Because cheaters lie so much, they will most likely slip up sooner or later, so ask a question about the friend she told you she was hanging out with.

“Oh, by the way, is your friend okay? Have you heard from her at all?”

21. If it’s related to your current topic, ask her: “Have you ever cheated on a partner? And if so, why?”

You’ve heard the saying, old habits are hard to break.

If a person has cheated on every single one of their past partners, what makes us believe they won’t do it again? 

22. “Is there anyone you think I should be jealous of? Haha, come on, I won’t get hurt!”

But what you’re really asking is, “Is there anyone whom you think I should be worried about?”.

The name that she gives you is the person who she most likely finds attractive and thinks you would be threatened by.

What are some of the signs your girlfriend is cheating?

If your s.o is cheating, then chances are that she’s unconsciously dropping hints because a cheater’s whole attitude changes.

They act in a very peculiar way—cold, distant, and non-affectionate.

1. She grows cold with you all of a sudden, and her behavior changes.
2. The communication between you became highly inconsistent.
3. There’s a lack of intimacy (both physical and emotional).
4. If your partner is online cheating, she will be over-protective with her phone.
5. Texting can be cheating too. You see strangers’ names pop up on her phone.
6. She actively chooses to spend less time with you.

Solutions for catching a cheater online and offline!

Spotting a cheating girlfriend can be difficult depending on her way of cheating: is it online or offline?

– If you believe she’s online cheating on dating apps…

You can use sites like SwindlerBuster to find Tinder profiles and Face Search option for other dating platforms.

They’re quite quick and good at what they do, so if she has any dating profiles under her name, you’re sure to find out.

– If you believe your girlfriend is having a physical affair…

Now, physical affairs are objectively a tad more extreme than online ones, but luckily they’re also easier to bust.

You can start by observing her behavior or looking for physical clues that she’s been cheating (e.g. finding another man’s belongings).

And remember to be vigilant so that you don’t get caught!