Intuition can be persistent and bothersome, especially if it has to do with people you love.
If you have a gut feeling that your partner is cheating on you, I want you to know that you’re not alone—you’re not the first or last person to feel this way!
You might even be trying to make that feeling go away, or at the very least ignore it, but that’s not recommended.
Gut feelings are our instincts telling us that something is wrong, and they might just be right.
Is your gut feeling actually trying to tell you something, or are you being paranoid? Here’s how to tell!
– What is a gut feeling? Should you trust your gut?
A gut feeling is a nagging, uneasy feeling that leads you to believe something is happening or might happen in the near future.
It’s not necessarily logical or something that you can explain; you just know that something is going on.
According to HealthLine, this feeling can manifest itself in the forms of;
- Particular thoughts;
- Nausea;
- Goosebumps/prickling;
- Clarity;
- Tension in your body, etc.
They’re typically related to past experiences and/or brain processing made by unconscious observations!
Though they might seem irrational at first, gut feelings are often correct, especially upon further inspection.
In this case, you can get a better idea of whether to trust your gut by observing your girlfriend’s behavior—whether she’s acting differently.
Is she cheating, or are you being paranoid? 27 clear signs that confirm your girlfriend is cheating!
One way (and perhaps the best way) to know that you’re not just irrationally doubting your girlfriend is by observing her behavior!
When people cheat—physically or emotionally—their behavior will drastically change, even if their partners don’t immediately notice.
So, in perspective, your gut feeling didn’t show up out of the blue; you’ve picked up on your girlfriend’s suspicious behavior, and now you can’t help but think she’s being unfaithful.
Let me show you what I mean! Here are the top signs a your girlfriend is potentially cheating on you:
1. She starts avoiding PDA and basically every other form of affection.
She no longer tells you “I love you”, and doesn’t want to do anything that tells people she’s in a relationship (such as publicly displaying her affection).
No more, hugs, kisses, cuddles, and overall physicality—her whole demeanor has changed.
When cheaters behave this way, it’s usually because they feel guilty, have lost feelings, or don’t want others to know they’re in a relationship!
2. She always says no to spending more time with you.
You ask her if you want to go out and do something together, but she always has some suspicious excuse as to why she can’t.
Whenever you ask her to spend time together, you expect her to decline, like she usually does.
Yet, she has no problems going out with her friends and other people.
3. There’s this one guy she tells you not to worry about.
It’s always the people they tell you not to worry about…
You’re particularly suspicious of this one “guy friend” who’s always around her; he’s always texting, calling, and spending time with her.
They’re always “innocently” flirting with each other—you tell her that he makes you uncomfortable, yet she carries on as usual!
She doesn’t keep her buddy in check but instead tells you that you shouldn’t worry about him.
4. She also gets very aggressive when you ask her about him.
She might attempt to switch things around and blame you for not trusting her.
You have more than enough reason to suspect that she and her guy friend are too close for your liking, so you bring it up.
However, your attempts are immediately shut down by her immaturity!
- She dismisses it;
- She gets irritated;
- She blames you for not trusting her;
- She might try to bring up one of your friends;
- She gives you false promises that she’ll stop talking to him.
5. She takes significantly longer to respond—she used to text back in a flash before.
Lately, she takes forever to send you one text back.
It seems as if something has her distracted; back then, she used to text you back immediately and you two were able to actually have a conversation.
Nowadays she doesn’t mind keeping you waiting; you could double, or even triple-text her but she doesn’t reply.
6. And when she does, she replies with short texts.
“Hahaha”, “That’s cool”, “OK”—are you annoyed yet?
If yes, I don’t blame you; this is how uninterested people reply to text messages.
If your girlfriend takes forever to text back, and when she does her messages are very dry, that’s another bad sign.
If when she texts you back she seems as if she’s super annoyed to be talking to you, don’t dismiss it.
7. You no longer receive good morning and goodnight texts from her!
She’s stopped telling you when she wakes up and goes to sleep, which could mean that she’s trying to exclude you from her day.
She used to be so eager to spend every waking minute with you (and would text you to do so), but now you don’t even know her schedule.
Showing affection through text has completely stopped between you two.
8. She tells you she’s going to sleep, but her activity status stays online.
Or she tells you that she’s busy or needs to go, yet you clearly see she’s active!
When people do this, their reason is that they no longer want to talk to a specific person; they lie to that person and tell them they need to go.
In this case, your girlfriend not wanting to text you even though she obviously can is a potential sign that she’s texting another man.
Though not guaranteed, cheaters do this because they don’t want to be bothered when talking to their side pieces.
9. She spends most of her free time on her phone!
You’ve noticed that she’s using her phone more often now, but not because of you.
She’s always on social media, typing on her keyboard and giggling, which leads us to believe that she’s talking to someone else.
Although she ignores your texts, she’s constantly talking to other people; she does this whenever she is free and even late at night.
But before you raise your eyebrow, keep in mind that she could very much be talking to friends or watching entertaining videos!
10. Her social media following goes up every day, and it’s always strangers.
She’s constantly following back men you don’t know.
And it’s not any guy friends or anyone like that—it’s unknown men who are always flirting with her.
They flirtingly comment under her posts, like her pictures, and are always blowing up her phone.
Again, not guaranteed, but definitely suspicious!
11. She doesn’t bother having deep talks with you anymore.
This is a strong sign that she’s emotionally cheating (or cheating in general) with someone else.
You two never have deep talks anymore—or you do, but it’s only you.
It’s always (and only) surface-level topics with you two nowadays:
“What did you do today?” “How was work/school?” “What did you have to eat?”
12. She acts cold towards you, but not other people.
She’s been a bit colder and distant recently; you ask her if there’s anything wrong, but she says that everything’s fine.
And that’s okay and all—some people become quiet when they’re going through stuff.
But this isn’t the case: she acts her usual jolly, cheerful self with other people, meaning she’s singling you out.
Unfaithful people act this way towards their partners—probably because they feel guilty or don’t care enough to keep trying.
13. All of her activity statuses are turned off.
Two reasons come to mind as to why she keeps her notifications off:
– She’s busy and doesn’t want others to bother her, or;
– She doesn’t want you to know when she’s online and what you’re doing.
If the second reason is what’s pushing her to disable her activity statuses, then something’s going on!
It’s common for cheaters to use social media; they typically turn off their activity statuses so their s.o. doesn’t see when they’re online but ignoring them.
14. She says she goes out with her friends, but they don’t post anything on their socials.
Whenever your girlfriend and her friends go out, they always post pictures together about their fun night.
But lately, they don’t—probably because she didn’t actually go out with her friends.
You see, when people who are already in relationships cheat, they need excuses for when they go out and don’t respond to their partner.
If your girlfriend is truly cheating, then she has most likely lied about being out with her friends, hence why no images are being posted.
15. It looks like she’s pissed off by every little thing you do.
This is probably the last thing you want to hear, but her anger towards only you is a typical cheating sign!
Sometimes cheaters subconsciously start comparing their main partner with their affair one, making them displeased with everything they do.
If not that, your girlfriend could be behaving this way because she’s already lost feelings and focusing on someone else.
It’s also possible that she’s projecting: because she’s cheating, she thinks you’re cheating too, and this drives her crazy.
16. Her schedule has changed—she’s always “busy”.
And I use the term “busy” very loosely.
Her schedule has drastically changed—if she’s cheating, it only makes sense that she can’t go about her day as usual.
She might stay out later than usual, or take little detours from her routine—how else would she meet up with her affair partner(s)?
She always declines your invitations to go out and says she’s too busy to do that; work seems to have her quite occupied lately.
17. Her phone is on her at all times.
Wherever she goes, her phone is on her!
She always keeps it out of your sight and doesn’t let you use it—you might’ve even asked her to exchange passwords, but she protested against the idea.
18. You two are always fighting lately, and that’s because your girlfriend always initiates fights.
Once a partner stops caring enough to talk things out, it’s safe to assume they’ve strayed away from us.
If you two are constantly arguing because your girlfriend gets angry over the most trivial stuff, it allows her to leave the house and go cheat.
19. She no longer includes you in her day-to-day life!
She used to invite you whenever she went somewhere to do something, but not anymore.
And unfortunately, one of the few explanations is that she no longer wants you to be a part of her life.
She’s slowly cutting you out—being with you at all times will give her no space to meet other people.
20. When you two talk on the phone, she sounds so uninterested and distracted.
This is a more subtle sign—but if your girlfriend always sounds uninterested and distracted while on a call with you, she may be welcoming another person into her life.
And though some people have no problem two-timing their partner, the rest can’t pay the same amount of attention to two people at the same time.
21. She stops giving and asking for updates.
Once a partner stops showing interest in your life as well as talking about theirs, then it’s time to start wondering why.
I view relationships as two people who never stop making an effort for each other—they love, care, and worry for their partner.
If your girlfriend has stopped showing interest in you, your life, and your well-being then I see why your gut is telling you she’s found someone else.
The same goes for her not talking about her day.
22. She stops being jealous.
I don’t know how else to describe this, but if your partner has always been the jealous type but suddenly stopped, there must be a reason behind it!
It all comes down to her potentially finding another mate—when people cheat, they usually lose interest in their partner.
For example, if your girlfriend used to get jealous over another woman liking your pictures on social media, but not anymore, something is up.
23. She suddenly has new interests.
She’s lately gotten into different music, movies, sports, and more things she otherwise has never been interested in.
It’s happened to everybody—you meet someone new, and in order to catch their attention, you decide to like all the things they like!
And if your girlfriend has met a new person, their interests and preferences will influence hers.
24. You barely talk, and when you do, it’s because you initiated the conversation.
Ultimately, your partner has stopped communicating with you.
You two have barely been talking lately—when you do talk, it’s because of you, never her!
She only seems to reach out to you when you initiate the conversation, otherwise, you two might go days without talking to each other.
Someone else could have snatched her attention away; the two of them are talking more and more often, possibly making her lose interest in her current relationship.
25. You feel it in your gut that her friends know something you don’t.
They’re awfully quiet and wary around you.
If your girlfriend is cheating, then her friends probably know, and if they do, they will act in a very specific way with you.
They’re awkward, uncomfortable, and overall quiet—they know what your girlfriend is doing, so they can’t act normally around you.
26. People tell you that they keep seeing her out with other people.
The people in your life keep telling you that they saw her with another man—and if they’re telling the truth, I think it’s clear what that means.
Of course, it could be a friend or an acquaintance, but I first want you to think of something!
Has she ever talked about this mystery man? Does she tell you whenever she goes out with him?
If you answered no to both of these questions, it means that she’s trying to hide him from you, or the other way around.
27. She’s on dating apps.
Another typical sign of a cheating partner is the use of dating apps.
Regardless of the excuses to use a dating app while in an exclusive relationship, this is never a good sign.
A single search is what it takes to find out the truth!
Why can’t I shake the feeling she’s cheating?
The feeling has become unshakable, hasn’t it? Well, it could be because of a variety of reasons including (but not limited to):
– Because she’s cheated in the past.
If your girlfriend has cheated in the past, then I understand your concern.
Your gut is trying to keep you on your toes because of what has happened before—it’s always on the lookout.
She hurt you at one point in the past, and since then, you never stopped being paranoid.
It’s possible that you subconsciously noticed a similar pattern from the time she was unfaithful to you, and that’s making your gut go crazy.
– Because she’s behaving suspiciously.
You can’t shake this unpleasant feeling because she’s behaving very suspiciously.
She’s most likely showing signs that a cheater would (the signs I mentioned above).
If this is the case, then know that your thinking is justified! After all, the way people present themselves impacts our opinion of them.
– Trust issues are at fault.
Your trust issues from past experiences are coming back to haunt you!
People who have been cheated on in the past might experience constant paranoia and trust issues.
They bring past experiences into new ones; because of what happened, your gut feeling is interfering with not only your current partner but future ones as well.
Is your partner truly cheating, or are you being paranoid?
For us to answer this question, we need a good reason and even better evidence!
Gut feelings don’t typically show up for absolutely no reason, contrary to what we think—your intuition most likely knows something you don’t.
Your significant other is probably behaving the same way a cheater would, or maybe your past is making you distrust her.
Whatever it is, keep in mind that your gut feeling is valuable!