Being attracted to other people is a normal part of life—regardless of factors such as marital status.

You just can’t shake off the feeling that she’s coming onto you—well, it turns out that these thoughts may not be all that crazy, after all.

When a married woman is sexually attracted to you, she will want to snatch all of your attention, no matter what you’re doing.

– What makes a married woman want to seek extramarital thrill?

People can’t help who they get attracted to, which is pretty poetic when you think about it.

The married woman in question might be seeking extramarital thrill for different reasons:

– Being in an unhappy marriage makes her want to look for romance elsewhere;

– Being incompatible with her husband, whether it is sexually or emotionally, might be impacting her loyalty as well;

– Open marriages also promote extramarital affairs (though they’re hardly considered affairs);

– And feeling attracted to one person specifically makes otherwise very loyal people want to cheat.

These are the most common scenarios. If you suspect this is the case, these are 19 signs a married woman has the hots for you:

1. Her body language is passionate.

Bodies speak, especially in situations like these; observe if her body language is that of a woman who’s indeed interested:

• Blushing;
• Being touchy (e.g. “OMG! Do you work out?”);
• Intense eye contact;
• Changes in her voice (e.g. becomes seductive);
• Mirroring your gestures;
• Nervousness (e.g. fidgeting);

Not to mention that interested women usually show it in their voices: they talk in a seductive, lower tone, as shown in a study done on this very topic.

2. It’s really common for her to want to spend time together outside work.

Speaking of spending time together, that’s exactly what a person who’s interested in you would do.

She’s always inviting you to places and welcoming you in more casual settings (e.g. parties, walks, restaurants).

She comes up with excuses to be in your presence outside of class or work—all this and more are dead giveaways that a married woman is into you.

Also, she first makes sure you’re present before tagging along somewhere.

3. She constantly asks you questions about your love life.

She’s super curious about your love and sex life because she wants to know if you’re single or not (although she herself isn’t).

• Even if you’re in a relationship, she always checks in with you to see how things are going and if you and your partner are still together.

Normally, people aren’t this interested in others (nor do they want to invade their privacy), so her doing this is suspicious.

4. She lies to her husband whenever she’s with you.

Whenever you two are spending time together and she gets a call from her husband, she never tells him she’s with you.

If this is the case, the topic of you must’ve come up at one point in their marriage; he knows she has a thing for you.

Her husband must’ve forbidden her from staying with you, so she feels the need to lie if necessary to throw him off her trail!

5. She doesn’t want you talking to other women.

Probably the most telltale sign is her getting obviously jealous whenever you direct your attention to other women.

You notice that she has a habit of feeling down whenever this happens—at times, she doesn’t even try to hide it.

• When she witnesses this, she proceeds to interrogate you right after: “Who is she? What is your relationship? Do you like her?!”

6. She puts a lot of thought behind her outfits.

Whenever you two have plans together (or have the same class/shift), you always notice that she looks amazing, with her hair and makeup all done.

She might even ask for your opinion on the outfit, or straight-up tell you you’re the reason she decided to dress up.

Don’t get carried away, though, as this is only a possibility; women don’t dress to impress men—they do it for themselves.

7. She does small favors for you.

She tries to be as helpful as she can, especially if you work or study together.

She offers to help you with your tasks or buys you an energy drink when you look tired—little favors like these!

She wants to help you out in any way she can, leave a good impression on you, or simply spend more time together…classic “Acts of Service” Love Language.

8. You often receive gifts from her. 

For many people, gift-giving is a love language, and by the looks of it, your acquaintance is no exception.

It doesn’t have to be anything lavish, just thoughtful.

For instance, gifting you something you mentioned you wanted or an article of clothing she thought would look good on you.

You’re in her thoughts so much so that she’s willing to go through the process of picking a gift for you.

9. She mentions your name often.

If your female friend has a habit of using your name repeatedly, it could be a valuable clue.

Unconsciously, we mention the people we hold near and dear—to make a long story short, she likes the sound of your voice.

When you two are talking or texting, she does this; even when talking to others, she somehow manages to sneak your name in.

10. She compliments you a bit too often.

When it comes to a secret crush, just look at the signs of potential flirting.

If the woman you’re talking about compliments your character and physique often, there’s a high probability that she likes you to some extent.

• She wants you to have a good opinion about her, while also making it known that she’s into you—two birds in one stone.

11. Sexual topics are the usual subject of your conversations.

When a person is sexually attracted to you and hoping to make it obvious, they will talk about sexual topics.

And if this is exactly what she does, it’s an indicator that she’s trying to get you hot and bothered.

• She doesn’t mind starting sexual talks with you, and as a matter of fact, will be the one to initiate them.

12. She laughs at your jokes, no matter how unfunny they are.

Isn’t it funny how the moment we like someone, they turn into a comedian?

So, this is what’s up: she’s attracted to you and wouldn’t want to hurt your feelings by not laughing at your jokes.

She has the time of her life whenever you’re together, regardless of how cheesy your jokes might be.

13. You two tease and play fight with each other!

She play-fights with you and cracks jokes.

You two often go back and forth but have fun doing it—it sort of looks like a couple’s banter to outsiders.

• She might even jokingly say that you’re into her, which to me just screams “I like you!”

14. She “jokes” about you two getting together.

Her jokingly talking about you two is a sign that she is, in fact, attracted to you—some jokes you don’t make with just anybody, after all!

She often says stuff about you two getting together for one night, and immediately backtracks to say it’s just a joke.

• “You make me want to divorce my husband, haha! Just joking!”

Jokes are usually a reflection of one’s opinions and feelings—she’s telling you she’s attracted to you, without actually saying it.

15. She prioritizes you over anybody.

Yes, if she puts you first and her spouse second, I think it goes without saying that she’s really into you.

She doesn’t mind ditching her husband to spend more time with you and always prioritizes your time together.

• She has a hard time saying “no” to a date with you but has no problems canceling the plans she made with her hubby.

16. She often asks you to help her out!

If she often asks you for help regarding the simplest stuff, it could be that she’s trying to steal your attention.

Or she’s making you feel strong and useful, a very popular tactic called “Triggering the Hero Instinct”.

17. She complains about her unhappy marriage.

She opens up about how unsatisfied she is with her husband’s performance, and might even compare the two of you.

It might just be an effort to give you the green light, or to plainly open up about what she’s going through.

And, though one or the other is possible, a married person complaining about their spouse’s sex performance is usually a sign they’re attracted to you.

18. You have a feeling she’s trying to seduce you.

You just can’t shake off the feeling that she’s trying to seduce you.

She behaves a certain way with you or speaks about certain things that might seem inappropriate, especially for a married person.

• Her body language is making you think she’s coming onto you—she’s, again, extremely touchy and generous with sexual remarks.

19. Ultimately, you’ve noticed that she treats you differently from other people.

When all is said and done, it doesn’t take much to know when a person is treating you differently from other people.

You’re the only one who receives compliments, gifts, and flirty remarks from her; you’re clearly special to her.

• She’s more thoughtful and affectionate with you, as opposed to the other people (whom she’s indifferent to).

What to do if she is sexually attracted to you, but avoids you?

I say respect her decision. She is trying her darndest to hide her feelings because she and her husband are united by holy matrimony.

Reciprocate the same energy—if she doesn’t answer your calls, stop calling her.

Remember, regardless of what she wants, your #1 priority should be her comfort; if it bugs you that much, you can talk to her.

Ask her if there’s something wrong as her actions are quite obvious.

But don’t forget…the ball is in her field!

Think twice before making a move.

Keep in mind that no matter what, at the end of the day, she is a married woman.

We can’t exactly throw caution to the wind this time, as more people’s lives are at stake—offline or online infidelity, know that her marriage is at risk here.

So, do give the whole situation a long thought: do you feel okay pursuing her?

And if this woman’s behavior is bothering you, don’t hesitate to tell her about it; if she won’t stop, consider reporting her to the proper authorities.

Your peace, comfort, and safety matter.