Carelessness online can sometimes cost people relationships.
Spam and other unsolicited interactions are becoming increasingly problematic for people—especially couples.
Seeing a dating site email on a partner’s phone is certainly alarming!
However, does that mean that he’s 100% using them?
Are such emails signs of infidelity?
– First, what does “spam” mean?
Spam is unsolicited digital communication that gets sent out in bulk, for
Some aim to promote their products, meanwhile, some are trying to plant viruses in our devices.
And, in extreme instances, they attempt to get our personal information and do God knows what with them.
So, all in all, there’s rarely a good time to get spam texts; the very least they can do is really annoy you.
It’s not unseen or unheard of for people to get spam from dating sites—and the reasons they started getting them are quite surprising.
Let’s have a look at 8 reasons why a partner is getting spam from dating sites!
1. He’s simply getting spam emails from spam dating sites.
As I said, getting spam is really annoying, especially if it comes from a dating site we’ve never even used.
It’s possible your husband/boyfriend is simply getting spammed with emails from dating platforms, although he doesn’t use them.
How spamming sometimes works is that spammers email people whose contact information is visible to the public eye.
So, in hindsight, people don’t even need to sign up for a specific site to receive emails from them.
In this case, there’s a high chance your s.o. is getting unwanted spam against his will, as most people do!
Another reason is the most obvious one, and probably the one we were dreading: he’s using the said dating site.
He has signed up by using his email address and is now receiving emails (e.g. spam, promotions, notifications, etc).
Sometimes, there is unfortunately no reading between the lines; the most obvious explanation is the one in front of us.
When people use such services, they get spammed with different emails as a way to keep them coming back.
And, yes, there are a lot of people in relationships who visit dating sites—unfortunately.
However, there’s a fine line between fake and legit emails your partner is receiving.
For example, promotions in the form of emails are usually something not to be concerned about—yet.
But, if the content of the email looks/sounds legit and notifies you that your partner received a match or a message, it’s possible he’s using the site.
3. The emails are coming from an old account he forgot about and hasn’t deleted.
Another possibility as to why he’s getting emails from dating sites is that he has an old, long-forgotten account.
Although the majority of dating platforms nowadays make it impossible for people to keep their accounts while being inactive, some allow it.
He used his email address to sign up for a dating site a long time ago and is still getting spam and other junk.
Now, it’s definitely fishy for a partner to never delete their account even after getting into a relationship, but let’s not jump the gun!
Maybe he doesn’t know how to stop such emails from coming, or maybe he didn’t use the proper methods to leave those sites.
He hasn’t unsubscribed from those notifications, and as a result, he keeps getting emails from dating sites.
4. Other companies got a hold of his contact information.
When signing up for a service, we usually use our email addresses, meaning companies have already really valuable pieces of personal information.
And in order to make a quick buck, they sell that valuable information—email addresses—to other sites.
Including dating sites.
And that brings us to another reason why a partner might be receiving spam from dating apps!
There’s a pretty big chance that a service he’s using has sold his email address info to a dating site—and that’s why he’s getting such emails.
This sounds really shady (and it is) but it’s unfortunately really common.
However, because we almost never read the whole thing, we let that piece of information slip past us.
5. He’s getting spammed by dating sites because of a virus.
If you’re wondering why your partner is getting sudden, suspicious spam from dating sites, then it could be because of a virus.
Being careful online is undoubtedly really important, or else we might welcome malware that has the power to wreck our devices and interfere with our privacy.
He most likely clicked on something he shouldn’t have and unknowingly installed a virus on his phone or computer.
In this case, the virus is spamming him with suspicious-sounding notifications that give false promises.
Making his devices act up, basically.
6. Another person is using his email address to sign in on dating sites.
As unlikely as this may sound, the amount of people who use others’ email addresses is astonishing.
It’s possible a friend or relative is using his email address for their own personal gain and reason on dating sites.
People who get banned from dating sites tend to ask for help from trusted friends when trying to reenter dating sites.
He’s getting spam hookup emails due to the fact that his email address is being used on an adult site by a friend.
It’s also fairly common for family members to use the same email address!
Though the chances of this being the case are slim, I can’t help but let you know of all the possibilities.
7. He’s getting promotions for dating sites.
If the place you found those emails is Promotions, then that explains it all.
Some email services, such as Gmail, have a Promotions folder: a place in which users receive ads.
In Promotions, we get deals, offers, and newsletters even from businesses we have nothing to do with.
So, it’s possible your partner received an ad for a dating site unprovoked!
Personally, whenever I get one of those advertisements, it’s not always things I’ve expressed any interest about
So, this is quite a plausible reason.
8. He’s getting fake notifications from shady sites.
I’m talking about adult sites, pirated movie sites, and any other shady or illegitimate websites.
I’m sure everybody has used them once in their lifetime; they’re free and convenient.
However, because of that, they earn their revenue from ads—most of which are really fishy.
“[female name] wants to trade nude pictures with you!” type of notification may pop up while using the site.
Here’s the catch though, they make them look as if they’re real notifications, coming from real people.
If you see something like this on your partner’s phone while he’s surfing the web, consider the possibility.
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Seeing such emails and notifications pop up on a partner’s phone is worrying, especially if they claim to come from a dating site.
The first instinct would be to doubt our partners’ loyalty, right?
Probably—and that can’t be blamed.
However, jumping the gun with little to no basis and making accusations can wreck a relationship.
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Here are some useful tips to spot signs of a partner’s behavior that hint at them being active on dating platforms.
Suspicions start arising if a partner:
- Becomes way too secretive with their socials/devices;
- Has an online dating addiction;
- Behaves in a cold and distant way;
- Is defensive every time you question them;
- Gets such emails way too often and hides them from you when they do so;
- Receives emails that look and sound legit;
- Deletes their browsing history;
- Has cheating tendencies, and many more.
Cheaters who use dating sites behave a certain way!
Pay close attention to your partner’s behavior and see if you can pinpoint any changes or fishy reactions.
Do dating sites send fake messages?
To put it simply and shortly: yes, they do.
Some dating sites are notorious for creating fake profiles that send fake messages in order to lure people in.
They do it to scam people out of valuable information (e.g. personal, contact, financial info, etc).
Or simply to promote their product and/or get us to pay for it.
Fake bots send nonsensical messages which may seem real at first, however, upon closer inspection, their behavior is odd.
Here are some signs that indicate a profile or message is fake:
- Out-of-context messages;
- Scripted messages;
- Repeated messages;
- Asking for personal information;
- Sending links unprovoked, etc.
How can your husband stop getting emails from dating sites?
If such spam emails have become very annoying at this point, then there’s something you and your boyfriend or husband can do about this!
Here’s how he can stop these spam emails from dating sites:
– Unsubscribe from the sites’ newsletters.
Signing up for a service usually means you’ll get a lot of spam from their email, however, there are ways to stop that from happening.
And one sure way to stop receiving unsolicited emails from sites is to unsubscribe from their newsletters.
– Report any suspicious emails you get!
When getting fishy emails from people and companies you have never interacted with, make sure to report or even block the senders.
This will help your email provider protect you and other people from unwanted content sent out by shady companies.
– Block the sender.
Just to be sure, consider blocking the sender.
This will ensure that you won’t receive any spam from a specific person or company.
However, do note that it’s possible for such spammers to have multiple accounts, so you’re going to have to do a lot of blocking!
– Be careful with online activities.
This goes without saying, but yes, do give importance to what you do online.
I’m talking about:
- Not visiting shady websites;
- Not putting down sensitive information on suspicious sites (e.g. personal information, credit card info, contact details, etc);
- Not clicking on any pop-ups, etc.
Keeping ourselves safe and being careful in terms of online activities will decrease the chances of annoyances occurring.
Be careful what sites you give your email address to; some may misuse it and send spam.
– Or, create a new email address and delete your old one.
If you’ve been getting a concerning amount of unwanted and suspicious emails from unknown people, consider deleting your email address.
It’s possible that you accidentally clicked on something that triggered the whole situation, leaking your email address to dangerous people/companies.
In situations like these, it’s best to delete the email address and create a new one.
Remember: safety comes first.
All things considered…
A person getting unsolicited emails is old news.
However, because of some of those emails’ inappropriate nature, people start doubting their partner’s loyalty and intentions.
That’s when spam becomes problematic and gets out of hand.
And that’s exactly why it’s important to know more about this system before jumping to conclusions.
After all, knowledge is power!
Best of luck to you!