11 smart ways to find out if your spouse is on dating sites

Because a lot of people have had a dating profile at least once in their lives, it makes us wonder if our partners are indulging in a bit of Tinder-ing as well.

We can find out by using Tinder itself (making an account) and third-party apps like SwindlerBuster…but what else is out there?

Here are 11 intelligent ways to find out if your partner is using dating sites!

1. Pose as your spouse by logging in with their log-in info.

Pose as your partner by logging in with their email or phone number

All you need to do is download the dating app/go on the site, enter your partner’s email address/phone number, and write down a random password.

If your partner doesn’t have an account, you should see something like:

“Incorrect email address/phone number.”

“An account with that email address/phone number doesn’t exist.”

On the contrary, if your boyfriend is on dating apps or sites using that specific email address or phone number, something like this will pop up:

“Incorrect password.”

Note that this works only if your partner isn’t using a different email address or phone number.

2. Search your spouse’s name through the site’s URL to see if they have a dating profile.

This is a cool little trick that is super effective to know if your partner is on dating sites or not.

Find your partner’s profile by putting his/her name in the site’s URL.

For example: www.tinder.com/@tim

For sites that are visible to Google search engines, this is a foolproof plan to find out if your partner has a dating profile.

If he/she has an account on, say, Tinder, the results of the people under that name will show up.

3. Use The SwindlerBuster Tinder-finding service.

With how far technology has come, using third-party apps like SwindlerBuster to search for people on dating sites has proven to be effective.

All you have to do is put down your partner’s name, phone number, or photo (depending on your search) and finish the check-out process.

If you’re not looking on Tinder alone you may go for something like:

You can even find free alternatives, such as Epioes, an excellent email address look-up tool, and UserSearch for username searching.

  • Keep in mind that a lot of dating sites aren’t visible to public search engines and easy to find, so you may not get the desired results, especially if you’re using a free service.

4. Search them and the dating site on Google to check if your partner is a user.

All we’ve got to do for this one is write the dating site’s URL and the partner’s name on the Google search bar.

Now, I’ve seen this method get a lot of attention, and to be honest I didn’t want to simply write it down without giving it a try myself.

First things first, I went to Google, wrote as instructed (site:datingsite.com Danelle, and got the results).

I gave it a shot with a bunch of sites and was disappointed, however, when I tried Tinder…surprise surprise!

Search on Google Tinder Profiles

It works mostly for Tinder only, probably because other dating apps (Bumble, Hinge, etc.) do not index member profiles.

5. Make an account and manually find your partner on dating sites.

If you don’t want to be all tech-savvy, you can take matters into your own hands and get to swiping.

All you have to do is:

  1. Open an account on the dating site(s) you suspect your partner is using;
  2. Set your preferences to match your partner (gender, age, location);
  3. And start swiping or scrolling on the app until you find your partner!

This can be time-consuming and ineffective if your partner isn’t using their real identity, by the way, but I doubt they aren’t.

6. Ask your friends for help and tell them to keep an eye out!

Ask your friends for help and tell them to keep an eye out

Simply ask if they’re willing to help you out—which I’m sure they are—by keeping an eye out if your partner’s profile comes up.

Confide in them about how uneasy and restless the possibility of your s.o. online dating makes you feel.

If they do come across your partner’s profile, ask them to notify you in some way!

7. Tell your partner a made-up story and see how they react.

How can human nature help us? Maybe attempting to catch our partner red-handed with a made-up story?

“Babe, I just got off the phone with [friend]. She’s really upset because she found Tinder on [partner’s] phone. That sucks. What can I do to cheer them up?”

You see, guilty people who aren’t telling the truth tend to exhibit certain behaviors when they’re exposed to situations that have to do with their lies.

  • A change in speech patterns, voice intonation, and mannerisms;
  • Sudden blushing;
  • Not saying enough/saying way too much;
  • The non-use of first-person pronouns;
  • Change of eye contact when the topic is brought up.
  • Attempts to change or avoid the subject;

Your partner’s guilty conscience is physically and psychologically manifesting itself through patterns; all of this is exactly what’s going to help us.

8. See what sites and apps have been used through your Wi-Fi connection.

This can be a bit tricky and difficult, but desperate times call for desperate measures.

  • You can check the sites that have been visited while your partner was using your Wi-Fi connection.

However, unlike the other methods I’ve mentioned thus far, you’re going to need a different kind of help.

You can contact your internet service provider and request the information, or you can ask somebody who’s tech-savvy.

9. Have a sincere talk with your partner.

If you want to be straightforward and fair with your partner about the whole situation, I recommend talking to them.

“Hey, baby. I want to talk about something. I was just curious, are you still on those dating sites? Not that I don’t trust you, I just need you to reassure me.”

Bring the topic up in a calm manner, let your s.o explain and express themself, and take what they’re saying into consideration.

Of course, I can’t guarantee that your s.o. is telling the truth; if you suspect your partner might be lying, then the other methods could be helpful.

10. Use reverse image search to find your partner’s dating profile.

You can also use reverse image search sites such as:

Reverse image search sites are designed to show the results of a photo’s source or even visually similar photos.

All you need to do is go to one of the mentioned sites, and upload your partner’s pictures—it’s as simple as that.

You’re not uploading the pictures anywhere online for people to see; you’re simply showing the site’s mechanics what or who needs to be found.

Google offers a similar tool as well!

Use reverse image search.

11. You can try checking your partner’s electronics.

Note that it should never come to this, but yes, one way to see if your boyfriend is on dating sites is to check their phone/computer.

  • Look for any dating app icons. Don’t forget to check the list of their installed apps in Settings; they could’ve hidden some apps away from the home screen.
  • Check their browsing history. i’m sure you know what this means: access your partner’s browsing history on their devices. There’s a chance that he hasn’t deleted or has forgotten to delete his browsing history, in which case, his activity will show up.
  • Check Google’s autofill:
Check Google’s autofill

As we know and hate, we use different services and put different passwords, so, a lot of companies have come up with the autofill/password manager feature.

Simply go to Google, Settings, and click the Autofill feature. Go to Passwords and here we have—or have not—all the sites and passwords that are used to access them.

  • Check what apps have been uninstalled on Android and iOS.

On Android: Google Play > profile icon >My Apps and Games (or Manage Apps and Device) > Manage >Installed > Not Installed.

On iOS: App Store and search for the dating app. If it says ‘Get’ next to the icon, then the app hasn’t been previously installed.

  • Check their notifications. Check his phone notifications and see for yourself whether he’s getting any from a dating site/app.
  • Go through their emails. If your partner is using a dating site/app, it might show in his emails; check Promotions, Bin, and Spam as well!

Be on the lookout for signs that tell your partner might be using dating sites!

When people cheat, it usually shows in the way they act, talk, and overall engage with people close to them.

Let’s have a look at some of the signs your partner is on dating sites:

They act noticeably different and more distant.

Cheaters act colder, more distant, confusing, and overall suspicious!

To us, it looks as if they have lost feelings or have grown distant because they’re just so different from before.

– They never give you their phone if you need/ask for it.

Has your partner become stingy with their phone?

If so, there’s a big chance that they have dating apps installed and don’t want you to see them.

– Whenever you have their phone, they’re nervous and restless.

If our partners panic after letting us use their phones, then they could be hiding something such as dating apps.

They try to retrieve their phones as soon as possible, leaving us little to no space to prevent any kind of potential “investigating”.

– All of a sudden, all their devices are locked.

Setting passwords for phones and computers is common; it protects our privacy and stops people from snooping around.

However, if your partner has just started setting passwords for their electronic devices, then something is fishy.

– They now put their phone on silent mode.

They do this to not raise any grounds for suspicions. Specifically, it stops notifications and other alerts from being heard.

Stay sharp!

As nerve-wracking as this situation can be, we must always stay sharp and attentive.

A person who uses dating platforms while being in a committed relationship is not a small deal; it’s considered unfaithfulness, no matter how you look at it.

And with how terrifyingly easy committing adultery has become, it’s up to us not to allow ourselves to get disrespected.

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